Accountability

Accountability is simply your ability to be accountable.

There are lots of people you will meet in life who have never developed the ability to be accountable. These people instead have cultivated the ability to avoid accountability. This is a choice every one of us has to make. “Do I want to be accountable, or do I want to avoid accountability?” You will realize later in life that this choice is actually “Do I want to show up and be seen, or do I want to be fake?” Choosing to be accountable is choosing to be seen. You will never have true connection with others unless you are vulnerable enough to allow yourself to be seen, flaws and all.

You will always fear being found out until you allow yourself to be found out.

You cultivate your ability to be vulnerable through practice. I’m sure by now you have experienced betrayal. It really hurts. I don’t know anything that hurts more than being vulnerable and having someone use that against you to hurt you. In this pain, the dangerous lie you’re tempted to believe is that nobody deserves a window into your heart. The truth is that not everybody deserves to have a window into your heart.

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

If nobody has a window into your heart then you can not feel connected. You can not feel loved unless you are completely revealed. This is why we all need accountability. Until I became accountable to others in my life I always felt like a fake. This doesn't mean that you have to tell your boyfriend your deepest darkest secrets. That’s probably a bad idea. But you need to tell somebody. You need to have a friend that will show up and listen to you tell how you totally screwed up. If it’s the right kind of friend then they will not say “You poor thing”, or “Come on it’s not that bad”, or “That’s nothing one time I did this . . .” The right kind of friend will say “Wow you really blew it, give you a hug, wipe away their tears, and say ok what’s your plan to make it right?”

This friend trusts you. They know you made a mistake, but will never see you as a mistake. They trust that you will do the right thing, that you will get back up, that you will courageously face the pain, and they are committed to walking through it with you.

I prayed for 23 years to find a friend like this. I have one. You’ll probably only have one in your lifetime. To prepare for this friendship I had to learn to be accountable to others. I had to learn to confess my faults, admit I was wrong, and to make amends. I had to learn to be vulnerable. I had to learn it is better to have authentic connection even if it means betrayal sometimes.

So start praying for that friend now. Start cultivating the courage to be honest, and vulnerable or you will miss them when God sends them into your life.

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I Made This

I just finished building my second scratch built quadcopter! It took about 12 hours to build and configure. I loved every second. I loved getting the stuff from the postoffice, opening it up, taking inventory, making a plan to assemble. I loved figuring out what I should do first. I loved the serindipity of wires that were too short becoming a stylistic feature. I even enjoyed the few hours spent troubleshooting why the motors weren't spinning correctly.

I made this thing. I loved making it. It is mine! I'm so proud of the thing I made because I made it.

Your Father in heaven feels the same about you. He made you. He loved making you! He is proud of his design!


I took my "Maiden flight" with my newly built quadcopter Sunday morning before band practice. I excitedly coerced Chris(Sound Guy) to come outside so he could witness the awesome!

It flew magnificently! Chris even said "Wow!" And then it plumited to the ground from about forty feet in the air. Smoke began poring from the top of my brand new just built quadcopter!

When my creation malfunctioned I didn't hate what I had made. I was concerned it would be damaged further. I just wanted to rescue it from the fire. This is how God feels about me when my decisions cause damage in my life. God is disappointed, but He want's to rescue me.

God wants to rescue you because he made you.

Chris and I were able to get the battery that had caught fire off the quadcopter. There's some burn residue on the top plate of the frame. It will have a scar, but everything else looks good. I ordered new batteries, and we should be back in the air in just a few days! I'll fix it, because I made it!

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Driving While Black

I'm sorry you have to talk to your son about the danger of his skin color. I'm sorry for the systemic brokenness of our criminal justice system.

I also tell my two sons they must comply and be super polite to police and any authority even if they're wrong, because otherwise it will go really bad really quick. It's pragmatic parenting. You are a good parent for having this difficult conversation.

Now let's talk about solutions.

I'm reading "We Real Cool" by Bell Hooks. She writes "Cultures of domination like the United States, are founded on the principle that violence is necessary for the maintenance of the status quo." Pg 49

That blew my mind. I can't say I agree with everything she writes, but I do see a culture fixated on violence. Many of the young men I minister to fully believe that compliance with any authority valid or not is giving up their manhood. They see violence as necessary.

Bell says that Orlando Patterson "emphasizes that long before any young black male acts violent he is born into a culture that condones violence as a means of social control." (Meaning America)

This is truth. Our culture believes that the only way to deal with certain things is to do violence, and if you're unwilling to do that violence when the "time comes" then you are weak.

But if we imagine the Kingdom of God "Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven" do we imagine a citizen of God's kingdom needing to be ready at a moments notice to do violence? No. Violence will be completely unnecessary in God's kingdom. We will not need police. Police Officer is a job that will be unnecessary in the new earth.

Police are a duct tape solution to an impossible problem. If society was going well we wouldn't need them. Think about that, the only reason police exist is because we can't manage treating each other as human beings. They are given a mandate to show up and make people do something, or make people stop doing something. They are given two tools, words, and violence. Some are trained from a child by their families and community that to have respect requires violence. Many are more experienced and know how to deescalate. But they are mandated by their job to do violence as necessary to achieve compliance. God even makes allowance for this because our world is broken.(Rom 13). I believe it is possible to be proud of the way they do their job as Police Officers and simultaneously sorry they have to do it. Possible yes, but gut wrenchingly difficult. There are many that walk this line everyday, and I'm grateful for them.

The issue is that black or white much of our culture believes that the way to fix somebody is to disrespect, hurt, or kill them. And the willingness to do violence proves you are strong and not to be messed with. We see this from Cowboys, to Gangstas. It's as old as America. It's not a color thing it's an American thing.(see movies, games, music etc)

Jesus said "34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35

The measure of a man or woman is not our capacity for violence or disrespect. It's our capacity to love. The only way we can demonstrate love is when we are faced with those who do not seem to deserve love.

If any solution includes disrespect, or violence it can only maintain the status quo.

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Project Pink Eye - #NozbeHOW Template

Today is my day to get the kids off to school. When I woke up my youngest son he had goo in his eyes, and they were bloodshot. So he's not going to school. I got my oldest off to school and then took Jake to the eye doctor. He has pink eye. Those are parental freak out words! I know how this goes. I freak out, my wife freaks out, we stress out, and then fight.

"How could I let this happen?" "What kind of parent am I?" Those quickly turn to "How could you let this happen?" "What kind of parent are you?" Thankfully after 11 years of marriage my wife and I know how this all works.

So to avoid the stress fight and keep us calm and organized I made a Nozbe project and invited my wife and mother-in-law to the project. After spending several hours disinfecting I am now ready to share the project with the rest of the world.

If your kid is sick or has pink eye. This is a great start to help you calm down and take everything one task at a time.

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Sermon Series Project Template

Our team uses Nozbe to manage our sermon series writing process. This lets us assign different tasks to different team members. Now Nozbe is allowing public sharing of project templetes! So here's our "New Series" template. I hope this helps you are your team be more productive!

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